Tuesday, March 10, 2015
Walking the Plank
Friends, family, spouse, coworkers, anybody you see often or hang out with can be a great asset in your health journey. I know from personal experience; my wife is also on the track with me, can you get a better ally? Sometime she is the locomotive, sometimes she is the caboose. Together our train is moving forward!
What we really have to be on the lookout for are Saboteurs.
It can be anyone; they are the ones who, while they know you are trying to lose weight, will bring you your favorite cookies, or who will tell you: “let’s go eat a quick meal at McDonald, they have salad!” or: “why don’t you take a day off from training, we’ll go (insert your own outing here)” or “Would you like a glass of wine?”, “have more, you only had a small plate.”, “You were funnier before!”
They are not mean spirited; they just haven’t accepted you the way you are yet. Because you are working on getting healthier doesn’t mean people will be ready to accept or change how they see you.
I think some of those saboteurs also unconsciously want to keep you where you were because it suits them. They might feel threatened by your changes.
Be on the lookout, that’s all I’m saying.
There is one more saboteur out there. He/she is the worse one. He/she will often be working against your goal, sometimes daily sometimes more. He/she is the one who you have to work the most at, to not listen too. He/she knows which button to push and when. He/she is Yourself!
For the longest time, in my moving away from lean city, I have been telling myself: “I would rather be bigger and happier than smaller and miserable.” Let me just spell it out: S-A-B-O-T-E-U-R
Why wouldn’t I be happier and leaner? I am a genuinely happy person, there is absolutely no reason for who I am to be insecure about my very own change, is there? How happy would I be if, because of my weight I have a stroke and get paralyzed and lose my autonomy. Would that make me happier to have my family or friends help me do my business in the bathroom? NO. There is no guaranty of this ever happening but I would rather be on the safe side.
The saboteur in you is also that loud voice that is the bottom-less well of wanting junk food, or wanting to watch one more TV show or wanting one more glass of wine.
Let the saboteurs walk the plank, that’s all I’m saying.